I need your advice; I have a friend getting married on Valentines Day this year (lame, I know). Her wedding is in Sarasota FL so I have to buy a gift, a dress, an airline ticket, rent a car and pay for 2 nights in a hotel. I love my friend and wouldn’t think twice if her wedding was here but all of those things really add up and things at my office are so uncertain.
We recently received a memo that the US office was downsizing 750 people. One person from my group (one of my best buddies) was already let go and I’m sure more lay-offs are on the way. Also as much as I love her we probably see each other 2-3 times a year, and don’t talk, email or text on a regular basis.
I would be disappointed if my friends didn’t attend my wedding but I would understand if they thought that losing their job was inevitable. I mean you can’t really expect that everyone you invite would be willing and able to travel even if it is a long weekend right?
But the thing is that I don’t think this particular friend would understand if I don’t attend and if I don’t go I’d have to accept the fact that I probably wouldn’t hear from her again. I hate to lose her as a friend but I am also struggling with the idea of spending $1,000 or so to attend. What do you think I should do? Suck it up and go or send a nice gift and accept the reality of her not talking to me again?
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GO! It will be fun! And if you lose your job you'll be sorry you missed it.
People who have weddings in faraway locales have to accept that not everyone can make it. I have missed some pretty good friends' weddings for that reason. It sucks but times are really tough right now!!
I personally would not go. I would explain to her why and send a really nice gift. A true friend will undertand.
Send a great gift and a letter explaining why you can't attend. Be sure to include that ya'll friendship is dear and in other circumstances you would attend but let's face the reality.....It's a recession....If you get laid off how long will it take to find a job? You will then regret spending so much money down in Florida. Good Luck in your decision.
I agree with P.S. Suicide. I'm sure your friend will understand and if she doesn't that's her issue not yours!!
Weddings are really touchy subject with friends tread lightly. hopefully you can continue being friends.
Update: So I took your advice, I sent her an email explaining the whole thing and telling her how disappointed I was, and she never responded. I had a feeling that was going to happen!
That sucks your friend wasn't more understanding. Hopefully after the wedding and honeymoon and things begin to settle down she'll be in touch again.
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